When I was not yet a parent, I could not fully appreciate my parents’ value but now, I can totally understand why they behave the way they do. No one is perfect and sometimes, parents act even more immaturely than their children. But at the end of the day, they are our parents, our roots, our ancestors, from whom our DNA’s came. It is that basic instinct to connect with them that makes the child-parent relationship alive and dynamic – ensuring the continuity of one’s heritage.

It is not yet too late to mend fence with your estranged father. Before my Papang passed away, I was more harsh and judgmental in viewing broken family relationships. But now, I am more forgiving and I only have one message to those whose parents are still alive: “Love them.”

Papang was loved and adored by all of us his children, even with all his faults. He had a charmed life because he had so much love from all of us even if he could not and did not give back anything close to the intensity of love he received from us. That’s alright because now, we have no regrets. We know that he knew that we loved him. If ever I am crying secretly when I remember him, it is not regret but an intense longing to have him back – if only I could.

Thanks, Jules.

Obviously I can’t change my family neither anyone of them. I Tried and i failed…I envy you for havinga good family…You may have lost your father physically but his love will always be there…I wished I had yours…

But I love my family, no matter how foolish we seems to look like sometimes. That’s all I can do. Sorry for venting… Celebrate your father’s passing…Because I know…and you know…he’ll be with Him, our creator…=)

Jules

By the way, I can’t be your “gate pass” to heaven, my friend. Jesus is – He said I am the way, the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” So all you need to do is trust Him. But intercede I will for you, my dear.

Thanks for visiting HotMomma.

Not to be irreverent, but your Papang looked very jeproks pala ha. I would have loved to have met him in person.

I hope in my dying days, when that I would still not submit to his lordship, I trust you will be the one to interecede, as always. I am always confident you will be my “gate pass” up there.

Take care.

Ann

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