Bond. Mommy Bond.
by mathe | Friday, February 29th, 2008 at 12:52 pm | Uncategorized |
Part I of two parts
Last weekend, my older son, Jonathan, requested me to help him input his user password in our computer. We all share one unit – my husband and I plus the kids. When he was done inputting his password, he was so ecstatic and he said: “Yes! I have a secret and I’m not gonna tell Momma.” I was half-amused and half-wistful. Time flies so fast!
He is turning 12 years old this year. Where have all those years gone? Now, he already has a secret from me he is determined to keep. He is actually beginning to assert his independence already. And while I have always wanted to see them grow up and have my life back again, now I am actually pensive and somewhat reluctant to let go.
Defying time and the normal progression of life is not an option for me, nor for any mother, for that matter. One day, our kids will grow up and leave us. While we are ranting and yelling and screaming our lungs out at the naughty, noisy pack of kids we have in the house right now, they are busily growing up and one day, it will all be quiet in the house again. Hopefully, by then, I would not have one, single regret for not spending enough time with them.
This post’s topic is bonding and spending as much time as possible with our children. I am not just concerned about the quantity of time that we spend with them, but more especially, the quality. The focus of bonding with kids is to enhance our relationship with them and vice-versa – to learn more about them by observing them, talking to them and simply enjoying special moments with them. They are continually developing mentally and psychologically and the changes that accompany this process are not necessarily apparent.
Bonding moments are our opportunity to closely observe them if only for the sheer joy of watching them change and grow. But finding time, much less making time to bond with our kids, is quite difficult with our busy schedules. My simple solution to that is to treat bonding time like it was an ordinary appointment. Meaning, it should be entered into our calendars and respected as a legitimate appointment.
If the kids see that mommy has scheduled an afternoon of biking with them in the park or a visit to the local mall for some ice cream and games at the arcade, they will feel special. During the bonding time, they tend to be more attentive to you and participative as well, knowing that it is a special time set apart just for them.
It is always nice and refreshing to be re-energized by the enthusiasm and exuberance our little angels show us when we make time to spend with them – just them.
Next post, some practical activities we can do during bonding moments.
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I couldn’t agree more, for most parent i think we should take advantage while our kids are young because time runs so quick and the next time we know there not younger anymore.
For me, i don’t want to miss the moment where i can hug, cuddle,laugh with them and play with them because if time will come that they grow i can say that i have done my moment and i am sure that me and my kids have that greatest moment spent together.
I love your post…i am sure most mommy are touched.
thanks, moneyrush for stopping by and leaving your comments. it inspires me to know people pay attention to what i have to share.
we all need to seize the moment given us to be close to our kids.
thanks!, indeed.
You’ve got some great advice here…I need to bond more.
And I can feel for you about your son turning 12…mine turned 4 yesterday…I just can’t believe it! Thanks for coming by my blog and commenting, too. For the record, CW3 is Chief Warrant Officer 3, a rank in the Army. I guess I should have clarified that for my non-military readers.
Thanks, Linda for your comment, and also for enlightening me about CWO3
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I pray that you and your family stay safe.